Dear Adviser,
My name is Jane, and I am a 58-year-old woman living in a rural village in Suffolk. I care full-time for my adult son, who lives with severe depression and anxiety. I have been his primary carer for over 10 years, managing his appointments, medication, and emotional wellbeing, while also dealing with my own health issues, including arthritis. I really struggle during the winter months. The cold weather worsens my joint pain, making everyday tasks more physically demanding. My Son’s mental health often deteriorates during the darker months, leading to increased withdrawal and emotional crises. I feel constantly alert, worried about his safety and wellbeing. I also rely on a small carer’s allowance and struggle to keep the house warm, only putting the heating on at night and I often skip meals to ensure my son has enough to eat. I also feel increasingly isolated due to the weather and limited public transport. My social connections have dwindled, and I feel increasingly cut off from the outside world. The lack of respite or support services during this period also has an impact.
Dear Jane,
Firstly, thank you for reaching out. It can be difficult to ask for support. Every unpaid carer’s role is vital, and your wellbeing matters. You are not alone. This winter, take time to care for yourself as well as others. I would encourage you to contact Suffolk Family Carers and find out what support if on offer. We can provide emotional support, a listening ear and signpost to other organisations who may be about to help with access to food and heating grants. We also offer free online and in person workshops and peer support where you can speak with other carers of people with mental health difficulties which may help develop your networks and connection to the outside world.
Please reach out and remember that support is available.
Supporting during Winter
As the colder months approach, unpaid carers face unique challenges that can intensify feelings of isolation, stress, and fatigue. Winter can be a particularly challenging time for those caring for loved ones with mental health difficulties, physical disabilities, or chronic illnesses.
Prioritising Wellbeing
Carers often put their own needs last. This winter, we encourage carers to:
- Stay warm and nourished: Seek support with heating costs or food if needed. Local councils and charities often offer winter grants.
- Take regular breaks: Even short moments of rest can help recharge.
- Connect with others: Whether online or in person, staying socially connected can reduce isolation.
- Practice self-care: Gentle exercise, mindfulness, or simply doing something enjoyable can make a significant difference.
Planning Ahead
Winter can bring unexpected challenges, such as illness or severe weather. Carers can prepare by:
- Creating a contingency plan for emergencies
- Ensuring prescriptions and medical supplies are stocked.
- Checking heating systems and insulation
- Registering as a carer with their GP for priority access to vaccinations and support
Knowing Where to Turn
There are many organisations offering help to unpaid carers, especially during winter. These include:
- Suffolk Family Carers
Offering a range of different options including community Drop-ins.
Emotional wellbeing sessions and peer support groups are also available across Suffolk and online.
- Carers UK – Advice, forums, and helplines
- Citizen’s Advice Bureau
- Suffolk County Council
- Mental Health Charities – Support for carers of those with mental health difficulties (e.g., Mind, Rethink Mental Illness)
- Suffolk Wellbeing Service
- Your GP and local health services.
If you are unsure where to start, our Mental Health Family Carer Advisers can work with you on a 1:1 basis, ensuring your support is led by you in a personalised way. We can offer you practical and emotional support to help you continue your vital roles, without sacrificing your own wellbeing.
